Ditto what Robert7 says. The idea sickens me.
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After you left JWs, did you join another organized religion?
by Albert Einstein inif yes, how did you choose it?.
if no, why?.
albert.
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Is it really just innocent words?
by lonestar63 infrom what i've read on here, i understand many of you have a certain amount of anger over the way the society controlled every aspect of your lives.
thats understandable.
i still have a bit, even though my fade is complete.. that being said, i think everyone on here has a goal to help those that are still trapped inside the mind controlling cult.
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Lonestar, I agree when I first saw such terminology it just triggered an uncomfortablness in me. I tend to not use these words either. But I do think there are varying degrees of anger. I'm angry that I wasted so many years of my life and kind of have a warped sense of things. I can move on because I got out with my immediate family and my life relatively intact. Some have not been so lucky and I think that their vernacular reflects the tumult in their life.
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Why do they never invite you for a meal but always encourage you to attend meetings?
by truthseeker intoday, an elder in my hall phoned and left a message saying he would stop by with a memorial invitation.. this elder has never bothered to encourage me in the past when i was missing meetings, yet suddenly he remembers me in the run up to the memorial.. i got to thinking about this - a few in our congregation called us when they found out we were inactive, encouraging us to go back to meetings.
or they would say, "it's the co visit next week, you have to come listen to his talk.".
i would give these "genuine ones" their due - they made an effort - but, when i think about it what effort have they actually made?.
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I actually have had people say they wish I would come back because they sure did have fun at "our" house for dinners, BBQ etc. No invitations though.
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Witness 007 returns to wife and meetings..I give up! Sorry no choice!
by Witness 007 inmy wife's been having mental problems since hurting her back at work...we split for 8 weeks {her doing} then she rings me and says she "can't cope and is lonely" so i return {the drama continues} she seems more stable, sleeping all night...what a change!
her mood had become alittle more stable.
she found a part time job, and has not been dragged off by security like her last job...much improved though she dropped 10 kilos in weight.
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So sorry for your predicerment. Please though don't think that the fact that you stopped attending caused you wife's breakdown. I am sure you are a strong influence in her life, but come on you can't cause a chemical imbalance in her brain. I also agree with On the way out, you can't go along with a delusional person (I am not saying you wife is delusional) but the therapeutic thing to do is get in touch with the emotion, not the delusion. Your wife's emotion is loneliness and there is more than one way to skin a cat. I never felt more lonely than at that meeting surrounded by 150 people. That being said you seem very loyal to her and your family, I respect that, all the best to you.
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Driving pet peeves
by keyser soze ini have to confess that i sometimes suffer from a minor case of road rage, especially on the expressway, right after work.
i have quite a few pet peeves, but two that especially bother me.. first, when people apply their brakes constantly, and for no apparent reason.
it's generally people who have already cut in front of me and forced me to slow down.
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People who don't maintain their lane when turning left, if they did people could turn right and traffic could flow. Why can't we all play nice?
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The things you'd wished that you had said to a JW smartass.......
by jambon1 inone day as we were leaving the kh on a sunday, my jw group overseer (who was a right sanctimonious ba****d).
was standing at the f**king door.
he said 'bye now, pay later'.
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A similar comment was made to me on a weekday afternoon meal during the CO visit. This guy insisted that the sisters brought lunch up to the hall for the whole group everyday of his visit. So with a little toddler in tow, I was cleaning up lunch after about serving 40 people, with no real kitchen facilities plus going out in service that afternoon (on my day off by the way). Well he starts giving experiences about African countries where people walk uphill 15 miles both ways to the meeting. He says to me come on "Martha" and listen to the spiritual matters. Why didn't I turn around and go home, put the baby down for a nap and have a glass a wine on the couch??!! Oh all the missed opportunities.
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Is your former life as a JW like an itch that won't go away?
by truthseeker inhaving been in the organization for some 30 years and only having been inactive for the best part of a year, it's hard to forget my past, as much as i hated it.. i wish i had never been a dub.
it's left a permanent stain on my life.. i'm having to start a completely new life and it's hard to know where to start.
i know i have it in me, but sometimes things hold me back.
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I think with us born in's , it will never go away, although it eases up a bit. I see my older children seeking a normal life, like dating, participating in school activities and thinking about college. The younger ones seem to move on much quicker. I am trying to enjoy seeing them participate in life, like my husband and I never got to.
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Lifer, 43 years.
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Do you still have your key to the KH?
by Quirky1 ini gave mine back a week or two after i quit going but i wish i had it back now.
i feel a little mischievous, eh, eh.
if you still have it or if you don't, is there anything special you would like to do with it?
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Yes, and I have a territory.
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What About the Big Stuff?
by AK - Jeff inhis follow-up to 'don't sweat the small stuff'.
i found this metaphor - with credit to the author, dr carlson ph.d. - to be relative to many issues facing exiting jw's, or for other seemingly unmanagable big issues in our lives - .
.... a story about lions being rescued from a dangerous environment.... the new living environment was "perfect" in every sense of the word.
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Thanks for the tip, I'll look for that book. I think most of us were really afraid to come out of the cage. I guess if you are really in the back away from the light, you don't even see it as a cage.